A Newcomers Guide to Masturbating with a Vibrator
Unfortunately, I didn’t get to try Vesper 2 with my penis-wielding partner, but that’s fine. Every time I wore it , I was expressing my sexuality in a way that would have had me burned at the stake in 17th-century Salem. Because the Vesper 2 makes me feel the same way, it’s not something I even wanted to share with my partner. I wanted the discovery, the pleasure, and the orgasms to be on my terms with my brand-new vibrator necklace—a sentiment, I’m sure, some people will understand once they get their hands on Vesper 2. As you might expect, the sex toy company Fun Factory is known for toys that look (and are) fun.
If noisy buzzing takes you out of the moment, consider this cock ring and its amazingly quiet (but not weak) vibrations. Its shimmies and shakes have a low, rumbly timbre for deep, satisfying sensations, and its matte silicone is super soft against skin viberator, especially when lubed. This cock ring doesn’t have a lot of bells and whistles, but that’s the point if you’d rather hear moans than vibes.
It’s both a clitoral and internal stimulator and is a source of “pleasure for both partners,” according to one tester. Grinding mimics the “humping” motion that many people learn to masturbate with (say, against a pillow), as well as the thrusting motions that people with penises do during penetrative sex. Toys elevate the sensation of grinding by adding vibration, texture, or other stimulating features. The noisy, room-shaking sex toys of years past have graduated to sleek, high-quality, and near-silent designs that don’t sacrifice power for discretion. From suction vibrators that are all about the clit, to precise G-spot vibrators, to backdoor action anal vibrators, there are a ton of whisper-quiet vibrators that get you there without waking up the whole house. Cue the Greek chorus, this is the ultimate trifecta of suction sex toys.
Nothing says, “I’m replacing your dick with this vibrator” or “I need a penis over your vulva to be happy” like bringing home a vibrator that is shaped like a larger-than-life penis. When using Puff with a water-based lubricant like Unbound’s Jelly, apply a small amount to the outer ring. Puff is optimized for use on the clitoris but can be applied anywhere externally on the body where you’re able to achieve an adequate seal.Puff can be easily cleaned with warm water and soap.Clean before and after use. Some people prefer to use cock rings around their shaft only, which might be more comfortable, especially if you’re on the girthier side.
Or put a towel or blanket between you and your toy, or keep your underwear on. (This is why I like the Limon so much; you simply squeeze harder for more speed, instead of having to fiddle with any buttons.) You’re looking for a setting that feels nice and moderate, not like it’s power-waxing your clitoris. I like it because it’s simple and intuitive to use, fits in the hand nicely, and packs a punch despite looking cutesy. It might look a little intimidating for a first-time toy, but many women will love the clitoris-cradling sensation it creates. Both the LELO Lily and JeJoue Mimi are pretty straightforward and uncomplicated, while still being high-quality. I suggest reading reviews online to get more perspectives about your potential purchase.
“My wife and I have known about this wands for a long time, but I finally decided it was time we get one since she is highly dependant on clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Believe me when I say if you have a clitoris, you want one of these,” wrote one reviewer. I have never been into masturbation and self pleasure … After hearing from one of my female partners about a biird product, I decided to buy the Namii. The material and colour are amazing, it looks cute and fancy on my nightstand and its functionality is absolutely fantastic. I kid you not, it has given me orgasms as quickly as 10 seconds into using it,” one five-star reviewer wrote.
“Find a setting you think is fun and use it on different parts of your body to see how it feels. Remember, there’s no ‘right’ way to pleasure yourself.” Solo sex not only helps you figure out what gives you pleasure but helps you feel more confident during partnered sex, which can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Dr. Lincoln adds that there’s no risk of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy with masturbation. The Laya III’s C-shape allows it to cup your entire vulva hands-free (so you can focus on using those elsewhere). Pressure or friction in that area can be intensely satisfying,” says Shannon.
If you do have this amazing little gadget on full power for 30 minutes on your clitoris—or whatever body part is your main avenue to climaxing—you’ll be inundated with orgasms. At just three inches in length, it’s about two-thirds the size of the original Vesper and Vesper 2. This sex toy does have a higher price than the original, but considering that my Vesper from 2014 is still working—it’s a worthy investment. You’ll also get to be part of a club of bold and fearless people who know that sometimes, the best place for your favorite vibrator is around your neck.